How To Stay Sane During The Family Vacay
Summer is around the corner; for many of us, that means the big family vacation. The yearly trip a family takes together is a standard practice in many people’s lives. We get to see family members we may not have seen in a while and enjoy new scenery. While vacations are meant for relaxation and fun, family vacations can bring about another dimension of stress. Every family has its own degree of crazy, and when the whole family gets together, the chaos can get out of hand. Nevertheless, everyone is paying and taking time out of their schedules to be on vacation. Here are some tips to stay sane among a sea of crazy and actually enjoy your vacation. After all, that is what vacations are for.
Set Realistic Goals
While vacationing in big groups, it can be challenging to navigate activities. Everyone wants to do different things, and people have differing views on how to schedule their time. Before you go, think about things that you absolutely want to do during your vacation. Set time aside for them, and let the group know it is important to you. It can be something big like going on a fishing trip or something small like having coffee alone every morning. Nevertheless, if you plan out specific things you would like to do beforehand, you can ensure you get them done and don’t miss out on them when you are in the heat of the family craziness.
Set Boundaries
Vacations can be challenging, as you spend a lot of time with a group close to you. However, boundaries are still important. It is normal for you to want a little space within the duration of your stay. Don’t let your family members make you feel bad for taking some time for yourself or not wanting to do certain activities. Yes, a family vacation is meant for you to visit with everyone, but that doesn’t mean personal space is no longer essential. Sometimes we need some alone time to recharge and have a good time with a big group of people. We also do not have to force ourselves to do things we are uncomfortable with. You know what’s best for you.
Don’t Talk About Politics (sometimes)
I won’t tell you never to talk about politics with your family because sometimes, it can be constructive. However, having a productive conversation about politics is not doable for everyone. If you know that every conversation with a specific person usually turns into a heated argument, don’t even bother. It will just lead to more stress. However, if you and another person are able to talk calmly and openly about a topic on which you have differing views, go for it. I have had very constructive conversations with people with differing opinions from mine, and they even started to understand my point of view for the first time. Civil discussions like this are necessary for our modern society. Sadly, many people are not able to actually listen and understand other viewpoints. Therefore, know who you can and can't talk to about specific topics in your family. Although you may feel like you want to, just stay away. It will save stress in the long run. This can also be applied when your grandma asks about your new tattoo, or your parents ask about your dating life. Just say, “No thanks, Mom. I do not wish to talk about why I haven’t been on a date in 6 months.”
Getting along with everyone in a big family can be difficult. We all have different beliefs, different values, and different generational perspectives. However, setting goals and communicating your wants and needs during vacation will help others understand them. Try your best to keep the vacation light and free of arguments. You can’t control what others do, but you can choose how you interact with them. Be the voice of reason in a room of crazy. Maybe your family will thank you for it.
Strike Out,
Ally Nelson
Boca Raton
Ally Nelson is a Content Writer for Strike Magazine Boca. Her passions include studying psychology, creating art and fashion, and drinking margaritas. You can reach her on Instagram @a.l.l.y_n or email @ nelsonalyssa.h@gmail.com.
