Are Men Afraid of Independent Women?
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Relationship dynamics are constantly changing and developing over time. While every individual has different preferences on what traits they desire for their future partner, there has been a noticeable shift in social media and the representation of desired relationships. With the rise of influencers such as Andrew Tate and podcasts such as Fresh and Fit, there have been a lot of “traditional” values brought back to the surface in a more harmful light. While the proposition of wanting a more traditional relationship dynamic isn’t inherently harmful, the portrayal of the ideal women by these men on social media is rigid and full of double standards.
This brings into question: while some individuals might find independence and ambition to be positive traits, why is it that some men fear strength in women and want to feel dominant rather than equal? Having more independence as a woman can pose a threat or a challenge to traditional gender roles. Andrew Tate has even described women as being “intrinsically lazy…there is no such thing as an independent female,” with this type of commentary being spewed all over his previously banned YouTube channel, it brings into question how these ideologies will impact the younger and more impressionable kids. According to an interview with BBC Tate believes that his beliefs are a “force for good” and that his bashing of women and their character will provide an ideal example for younger individuals.
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One of the principal reasons behind this apprehension towards more independent women is the lack of need to be provided for. Traditionally, men are expected (or would like to be seen as) the provider in a relationship. A more self-sufficient woman doesn’t necessarily need a man to provide for her in this way. Certain men see this self-sufficiency as a jab to their masculinity. In reality, a multitude of women who can provide for themselves choose to be with their partner, rather than needing a man to give them what they can already give themselves. This choice allows a woman to feel freedom when it comes to choosing her partner rather than being with them as a necessity.
Independence isn’t necessarily only about the financial aspects of a woman’s life. Independence also encompasses the way a woman can already have a fulfilling life that is full of depth without a partner. Being able to be alone and enjoy one’s own company displays the character of someone who has that reliance on oneself. Female independence takes on a more holistic approach by focusing on having this self-assurance and focusing on one’s personal growth. This inner depth and growth are a source of strength that gives a woman the ability to navigate day-to-day life with a rich sense of self. Individuality gives independent women the ability to not be defined solely by their relationship status.
Overall, the apprehension men can feel towards independent women can be centered around evolving gender roles in the present time, as men are not always needed as providers. Female independence not only lies in a woman’s financial stability but encompasses a sense of assurance and depth in the self. Empowering the strength of independent women changes relationship dynamics and creates challenging dialogue against traditional gender roles. Rather than being seen as a threat to men’s masculinity women’s independence is empowering and illustrates the work that women put into themselves and their growth of character.
Strike Out,
Author: Emily Montarroyos
Editor: Cristina Angee
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