What the F*ck is Nonchalant
The worst trend of our generation is being so-called 'nonchalant.'
Yes, you're the coolest if you don't care, got your phone on DND, you’re constantly late to the function, have no communication skills, and portray the "I don't give a f*ck" mindset.
Don't be too much, it will scare them off. Don't tell them you like them because you're just going to look stupid. Don't get too emotional or cry. Give them less, so they fight for more. Don't be assertive or clingy. Be the one who is silenced in the group, the one on their phone. Wear a cool outfit, and be as mysterious as possible.
You're not cool and nonchalant; you're just rude and boring.
I know I don't want to be around that person, let alone be that person. But we're all guilty of it. I have more so than ever given less to receive more because, as messed up as it is, people in my generation love the chase. But why should I make myself seem less than who I am and silence myself because I might be too much?
Unfortunately, we just need to realize they are not your person or friend if you have to devalue who you are in any kind of way. Nothing is real about a relationship if you cannot be your most authentic self. Why even surround myself with people who only like a forced version of me? This constant battle with our mind and society to act a certain type of way has become drastically misconstrued. Social media plays a big role in normalizing this behavior and glamourising the outcomes of being “nonchalant.”
Why do people spend this one life pretending not to care when we care so deeply? Are we scared to get hurt? Scared to be seen transparently? Scared to fail or say the wrong thing? Everything is way too over thought and planned. Lately, there has been no originality or any kind of verisimilitude. Why hide ourselves, our ideas, and who we are?
Not everything has to be ironic, sarcastic, and unmeaningful. Being emotionally turned off, whether in relationships, friendships, or in your career, will prevent people from seeing you authentically and realistically.
This idea of being nonchalant is just an excuse because it is scary to be yourself, put yourself out there, and say what you want to say. However, having this mentality that you are better than everyone, too cool to be emotional, and like you just don't care is not going to get you very far.
Being open, honest, and true to yourself is the best you can do, and you should never have to change how you act or behave to fulfill somebody else's liking. Appearing calm, disinterested, and casual is lame and regretful. We should never be downplaying ourselves and dissociating from the beauty of life to play a performance.
Strike Out,
Kaden Horn
Boca Raton
Kaden Horn is a content writer for Strike Magazine Boca. In her free time, you can find her writing creative nonfiction and even fictional stories about every situation in her life. If you become acquainted with her, you might just end up being a character in her stories. She loves music, whether it's making playlists or playing guitar. You can reach her by email at kaden.horn813@gmail.com or her Instagram @kadennhunter
