What If We Never Met? The Quilt Theory

People come and go. It is a fact of life– the act itself is impersonal. It is our innate duty to understand that as people, we too will come and go. Whether it is the death of self, relationship, passion, or love, it all commands impermanence. To feel, to love, to let go, to ache, is cyclical. We find comfort in the complacency of things that repeat. As much as we detest submitting to the fact that we are creatures of habit, it is through this denial that we hinder our own growth. We fixate on “better days are coming,” but better days are here. Living in a state of reminiscence prevents us from immersing in the present– from finding joys in our mundane and exciting every day alike. 

Patience is a virtue, but longing is a thief. Be mindful.

Loving and losing. It hurts to be unsure of whether or not it was loving but to know that there was a loss. You cannot force the hands of fate. Its feeble and wise fingers won't respond to being held at gunpoint in exchange for the fruition of your desires. Take my word for it.

The Quilt Theory suggests that despite the loving (or lack thereof) and the losing, that fate and time alike pay us kindness. That we may keep parts of the people that grow us into who we are and who we are meant to become. Lovers, friends, and relatives, whether or not they stand the test of time are irrelevant to our soul’s infrastructure. Souls have no concept of time, so when we say goodbye we are struck with a longing for the other person. An immediate craving to reconnect, unsure of when the next “Hello” will be. Their isms and sayings get sewn into our patchwork as a means to make amends for a seemingly lost connection. Except that it is not lost or forgotten, simply held in remembrance in a different plane of consciousness. So subtle we may not notice, but slowly throughout our lives we craft a beautiful quilt that lets us feel one another deeply, and then proceed to detach from the emotion surrounding it.

Ironically, the only way to detach from the past, to move forward is to feel it and recognize how it clings to you. That way it becomes realized and then you can let it go for all the parts you want to pass. The past stays as long as you let it linger, work out the energy, embrace your new patchwork, and carry on. Life wasn’t meant to sit still or remain stagnant. It's all energy, let it flow.

To resent and feel spiteful (as frightful as it may be) is to devalue the person you became as a result.

If we never met, I wouldn’t have met myself this deeply. So if to know you was to meet me, then there was no loss. Just an exchange of energy, just another patch on my quilt. 

You are all the love you’ll ever need; continue growing and learning to love each version of yourself. The rest will follow.

Strike Out,

Rosemary Aziz

Boca Raton

Rosemary Aziz is a Content Writer for Strike Magazine Boca. A health and wellness junkie who finds leisure in writing, all things coffee, and observing the human condition– but people-watching is better with friends. Or in her next article. You can reach her by email at r.m.aziz0204@gmail.com .

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