The Duality of Dating in your 20s
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To start off, I have no idea what I would be doing if I were single.
In a world where relationship status is often equated with success, happiness and personal growth, I've joyously swam against the tide. Having spent five years in a serious relationship, I have embraced the duality of my existence. At the same time, others have accepted the single life out of pure content.
Let's face it — the single life is constantly glorified in movies, TV shows and internet memes. But while my friends navigate the solo life, I get to hear about all the dreadful experiences that I can proudly say I will never have to partake in. My past five years have only given me unforgettable memories, unconditional love and the ability to share Netflix accounts.
The concept of being "tied down” in a relationship suggests one a lack of readiness for a loving relationship rather than an aversion to long-term commitments. When you find a partner who supports your social life and allows you to maintain connections with friends, the feeling of being "trapped" becomes irrelevant.
If my relationship were a trap, it would be the kind with an open door, a welcome mat and a sign saying, "Enter freely and bring snacks." My partner and I have cultivated a space where we can thrive individually and flourish together.
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My idea of fun is getting ready for a night in, doing my 10-step skincare routine and cooking dinner for my boyfriend and me — practically embodying the wife role.
The beauty of a long-term relationship lies in its ability to help individuals evolve together while fostering a deep connection. It's not about losing yourself; it's about discovering new facets of your identity. My boyfriend has seen me through my bad hair days, questionable fashion choices and failed attempts at mastering the art of cooking – and he’s still here! That's not captivity; that's unwavering support with a side of laughter.
Now, let's talk about the people who have welcomed single life with open arms and those who can't even imagine being in a serious relationship. While I find this very impressive, I'd like to give a perspective from the cozy confines of my relationship. For those who can't imagine committing to a serious relationship, here's a secret: I couldn’t either until I stumbled into one. Life is unpredictable and love often finds you when you least expect it. It's not about conforming to societal norms or timelines; it's about finding someone who makes your heart race and your 8 a.m. Monday mornings a little brighter.
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Having someone to share the highs, lows and the occasional 2 a.m. Wawa milkshake with is like having a personal fan club that doubles as a romantic partner – a win-win situation. So, here's to the long-term lovers, the solo warriors and those still navigating the uncertainty of it all – may your journey be filled with laughter, personal growth and the occasional disagreement over what show to binge-watch. Whether you're holding hands with a special someone or savoring the joy of solo adventures, just make sure you're having a damn good time.
Strike out,
Writer: Denisa Fluturas
Editor: Sofia Ramos
Gainesville
Denisa Fluturas is the Assistant Editor-in-Chief for Strike Magazine Gainesville. When not conquering her extensive to-do list, you can catch her plotting her life's next move on Pinterest. It's like adulting but with more gifs and less adulting. Connect with her on Instagram @denisafluturas or via email Denisa.f@aol.com
