Romance is Dead

Dating in the age of social media and dating apps feels like a never ending cycle of swiping left or right. With the lack of authenticity in our generation of relationships, it is increasingly difficult to make a meaningful connection with others. Interference from social media also impacts the stability and trust within many relationships nowadays as well.

Not only is social media at fault for killing romance, but so are the endless options of dating apps. With apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge, you can scroll through profiles like you’re shopping for your significant other. But here’s the catch: having the ability to match with so many people disengages the user from actually creating fulfilling connections, and rather makes dating feel like some sort of game. Instead of focusing on one person and putting in the effort to see if there’s a real connection, dry conversation leads to a possible talking stage which leads to inevitable ghosting. 

Alongside the surplus of matches on dating apps, the instant gratification of being able to text and virtually get to know someone also creates a lack of authenticity. Texting has replaced actual conversations, and let’s be real—it's also way too easy to misinterpret a text. Back in the day, you had to meet up, talk, and actually connect. Now, it’s all about quick exchanges and sending each other snaps which just doesn’t cut it when it comes to building a solid relationship.

Plus, social media puts so much pressure on relationships. Whether you’re soft or hard-launching your partner, it can feel as though you’re posting for an audience, rather than the relationship. And, everyone’s posting their highlight reels, therefore creating unrealistic expectations in dating. Real relationships can be messy and complicated sometimes, and that’s okay! But when you’re constantly bombarded with curated images, it’s easy to forget that.

Realistically, dating apps are fun and have made it easier to meet people in some aspects. However, social media and dating apps have also made it harder to form those authentic connections that matter. In a generation of “wyd” texts and soft launch Instagram stories, it can be hard to remember that it takes effort to build something real. Ultimately, while dating apps and social media gestures offer convenience, they can't replace the meaningful connections made up from genuine effort and love. Where is my Noah from The Notebook after all?

Strike Out,

Lydia Corbin

Editor: Maya Kayyal

Lydia Corbin is a blog writer, journalist, and production assistant for Strike Magazine. She is retrieving her BA in Communications. You can reach her at lydia@lydiacorbin.co or on Instagram at @lydiarcorbin.