The Power of the Forever Heart Sparkle
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There will always be that one person.
The person in your life who will not stop dominating your thoughts or conversations.
Someone you don’t just have an interest in, feelings for, or crush on. There is a deeper connection and pull to them that is not felt in every new relationship.
The person who, if you were standing at the altar, seconds away from saying “I do”, you would throw it all away for if they gave one objection.
The ever elusive, forever heart sparkle.
This term was coined during a night at 5 Bar after my friends and I hit our two “category five” drink limit. There was a mixture of “situationships” in our group dynamic; one still waiting out for a specific person she’d known forever, another content in a long-term relationship, one having a fresh start with a new character, and two of us with no prospective love matches on the horizon. Even with these differences, we all had a common overlap in our stories: our forever heart sparkle.
It doesn’t matter if you’ve known them for years, barely have met them, or if you’re not even sure they’ve come into your life yet. The forever heart sparkle can enter your story when you least expect it, and there still remains the possibility of not even knowing that's who they are until years later, when you can’t seem to get them out of your head.
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They’re the person you’d be willing to throw away your wedding for, uproot your life for, and take the opportunity to have a chance with them over anyone else. They live in your head, rent-free, and put down roots so deep, you know there is no chance of them leaving anytime soon.
If your forever heart sparkle is already a friend, you are plagued with the difficult question of “Do I wait around and see if we could be something more?” You’re constantly questioning yourself, “Could they like me as more than what we already are, or am I delusional?” Not to mention, there is the added difficulty and pain of possibly seeing them have romantic connections with other people. It is not an ideal position to be in, but at the same time, it has its perks. You have a friend so amazing that you want more from them. They have feelings for you, even if it is only platonically. Whether or not the relationship turns to more, they are still someone you will have in your life. The biggest piece of advice I would give is to read the signs as best as you can. If you think there is the possibility of romantic feelings forming, capitalize on that. That being said, also remember to not take for granted the power of friendship. Sometimes a friend is the best thing you can ever have, and not every friendship is meant to turn romantic.
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If your forever heart sparkle is someone who has hurt you in the past —whether that’s an ex you can’t seem to move on from, or a past or current crush that has screwed you over in some way— you can be torn between the want to be smart and not give them the chance to hurt you again, but also wanting to be forgiving and hand out a second (or, if you're like me, fifth, sixth, and seventh) chance. Forgiveness is a powerful thing and an amazing quality to have. With this, though, always remember that when someone shows you who they are, believe them. Your forever heart sparkle needs to be worthy of the name and the time you spend thinking of them. Not every past or potential relationship is deserving.
If you have realized that no person that is in your life thus far has the possibility of being your forever heart sparkle, then chances are you’ve never even met them. Always keep your eyes and heart open to the possibility of them coming into your life! Enjoy your dating journey, and keep in mind that not every person you give a chance will fit this mold. Again, you might not realize that a person is your forever heart sparkle until later when you can’t stop thinking about them. Never settle, keep your expectations and standards high, and keep an open mind with the people you meet!
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All in all, it’s so important to want the best for ourselves, and imperative to be patient and wait for the right person to come around. This being said, never take the relationships you have for granted. There is no use in waiting around for something you know deep down is never going to come.
If they really are your forever heart sparkle that holds the power to stop your potential future wedding, make sure they are deserving of the title. They should love you unconditionally and fully, never giving you the chance to even wonder if you deserve more. After all, you deserve nothing less than the best possible love story.
Strike out,
Ann Harper Covington
Editor: Caroline Kostuch
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